A growing conversation has emerged online after TikTok creator Becky Akinyi openly shared her decision not to have children, a choice that has drawn strong reactions from many Kenyans. Her comments have pushed a sensitive topic into the public space, forcing people to reflect on parenthood, responsibility, and personal freedom in today’s society.
Becky explained her position by looking back at her own childhood, which she described as difficult and full of struggle. She spoke about growing up in hardship and doing small jobs like selling firewood just to survive. These experiences shaped how she views life and parenthood. According to her, the struggles she witnessed made her question why children are often described as blessings when many parents are constantly overwhelmed by financial pressure and emotional stress.
In her viral video, Becky questioned the meaning of calling children a blessing when parents struggle daily to meet basic needs.
She mentioned worries such as school fees, food, clothing, rent, and healthcare. She argued that love alone is not enough to raise a child and that good intentions do not pay bills. For her, bringing a child into the world without being prepared only increases suffering for both the parent and the child.
Becky stressed that having children should be a well-thought-out decision. She said parenting requires money, emotional strength, patience, and stability.
She made it clear that she does not hate children, but simply believes that they deserve parents who are fully ready and willing to take on the responsibility. In her view, choosing not to have children can also be a responsible decision.
Her statements quickly sparked debate across social media platforms. Many people supported her honesty, saying she voiced thoughts that many are afraid to express openly. Some agreed that societal pressure often pushes people into parenthood even when they are not ready. Others pointed out that the high cost of living, unemployment, and unstable incomes make raising children much harder than before.
Becky Akinyi alleged post about not having children. Photo Courtesy/Nairobi Gossip Club.
However, not everyone agreed with Becky. Critics warned that she might change her mind later in life and regret her decision. Some reminded her of the happiness, love, and fulfillment that children can bring. Others argued that hardship is part of life and that many parents still find joy despite financial struggles.
Becky Akinyi’s remarks have opened an important conversation about choice and responsibility.
